I Read ‘Growing Up Duggar’: Chapter 2 — Your Relationship with Your Parents

This is the chapter where the Duggar daughters take turns taking a giant shit on their grandpa. You see, he didn’t have a spiritual focus, nor did he have the “right attitudes and responses.” He struggled financially, and once the family ha the utilities shut off. How ungodly it is to be poor! What a moral failing Seriously, if they’re trying to say he was not a nice man, they’re doing a bad job.

And of course, Grandma Duggar was an angel. It was because of her that Jim Bob grew into his glory.

On the other hand, Michelle’s dad grew up in an orphanage and chose not to “wallow in depression.” He chose to “live cheerfully” and become a hard worker. As you can see, the Duggars think depression is a moral failing.

The girls also make it clear that they are not trying to date. They want to have a courtship, and they know that the relationship a girl has with her dad will influence the way she sees men as she grows older. The Duggar girls, all-knowing as they are, tell us that girls who do not have dads who protect them make bad choices that lead to “painful memories.”

In one instance, they write about a girl who wrote to them about wanting her dad to check out her dates. For some reason, he refused. So, she would go on a date with the “boy-of-the-week” and end up feeling “empty” and “worthless.” She didn’t feel important enough to her dad. So, if you find yourself in this position, you should pray to God and ask him to give your dad protective characteristics.

Jill talks about a friend whose parents got a divorce and Jinger discusses being afraid of tornadoes. Then, they present a few ways you can better your own relationship with your parents: spend time together, be grateful, and “be a blessing.”

They also describe something called the Obedience game, which is apparently a way to burn off energy before bedtime and instill some weird values. This is apparently a game where a parent instructs one of the young children to go do something inane, like touch a door handle. The child has to express enthusiasm about going to do that thing while a group of siblings watch them do it. The goal of the game is apparently to teach that God is always watching, even if your parents are not. Also, children are born sinful, which is why they naturally throw tantrums.

Finally, they talk about how good their dad is at managing his anger, which is good for the Duggars because a lot of other girls are afraid of their dads. Anger is bad. For example, you could get fired if you punch somebody! So don’t do it.

It becomes pretty clear by the end of the chapter that these girls aren’t really equipped to help teen girls who do experience actual conflict with their parents. I ask again, who is this book for?

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